what does hi/lo maintenance mean?

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Originally posted by pomidorchik: what does hi/lo maintenance mean?

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They are classifying women into those categories based on how difficult they are and how much "maintenance" they require in a relationship.

I would break down the term "high maintenance" into two categories. First Category... High maintenance financially. This category is self expanitory. She has to have the best of everything. Expensive clothes, perfumes, vacations, cars, biggest house, biggest diamond ring, earrings, anything she wants, she has to have. And the MAN is expected to provide this. She may supplement some of this lifestyle with her own income, but she is looking to you also. Others here will be able to add I am sure. Second Category. High maintenance emotionally This category is much more difficult to explain. I would venture that a HME woman needs constant attention. Maybe can't be too independent. Life generally for her runs from crisis to crisis. The man is generally reduced to life walking on eggshells, never knowing what he might say or do to set this type off in some direction or another. Life and sex is dependant on what mood she is in. May even take Prozac. ( may need it and not take it also... : ) ) Just a few thoughts. Always judge others by the same standards as you would want them to judge you

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Make each day count to improve yourself and those around you

From Wiki: ________________________ high-maintenance 1. Describes a system which requires a high degree of maintenance to ensure proper functioning and without which it is likely to break down. 2. (figuratively) A person who requires a lot of attention. He has this incredibly high-maintenance girlfriend; if he doesn't tell her that he loves her every five minutes, she tends to break down into hysterical depressive weepy fits. _______________________ if that's the definition, then I have never met a woman like that in my life:-)) I dunno why:-) Maybe because my approach is based on pure biology. You give things that female psyche is incapable to refuse. From that perspective cheap things like flowers or I-luv-u-s constitute a very unnatural show of affection. But i damn like to compliment: when deserved, of course:-) I am so good at it, that at times feels like I perfected the art:-)

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I am very qualified to talk on this subject - having married/dated several high maintenance ladies, and having dated 1 low maintenance girl. Examples of high maintenance: 1. cries easily - generally requires concessions to bring her back out of crying spell. Crying to occur on a weekly or bi-weekly basis. 2. Ready to argue incessantly to get her way. If you don't agree and walk away - argument to be continued later. If in bed, and argument is not resolved...tap on shoulder to irritate. 3. There are boundries that can't be crossed. If she's not the crying type, then it may be that you get the cold cold shoulder with little eye contact until those boundries are respected. 4. money is usually an issue with high-maintenance women....the more money you spend the less grief they give you. Not spending to their satisfaction results in 1. and 2. and 3 (above). 5. they must feel in control of the relationship. It's pretty much acknowledged that they are the 'boss'. 6. little respect for your time or schedule....late for things that are important for you, you are scheduling around their free time. After all, they come first. 7. There is plenty wrong with you to start. either they want to change things about you, or recognize that you are a hopeless case. Low maintenance. 1. Doesn't cry much...maybe once every 2 or 3 months. 2. Doesn't argue much, if ever. 3. Open minded. willing to cross boundries, even if they prefer to go back to their safe zone. 4. Money is not a priority. Personal relationships take priority. 5. More of a team player. If you are lucky enough to find a low maintenance woman she is looking up to you as the stronger of the two. 6. respects your time 7. Accepts you for who you are. I should mention something about self esteem. Obviously, the high-maintenance women have the Cinderlla complex...that's how they got to be high-maintenance. The Low Maintenance may suffer from the opposite...a feeling they are inferior due to 'some' reason. Not that high maintenance don't have their issues too. Geezus...how does ANYBODY ever make relationships work. lol "Hopeless in Atlanta"

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"Hearts will never be practical until they can be made unbreakable."

Good Grief James....... How quick did you run from the high maintenance ones???? Always judge others by the same standards as you would want them to judge you

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Make each day count to improve yourself and those around you

I have put up with a lot to marry/date beautiful women. was it worth it? yes. "Hopeless in Atlanta"

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"Hearts will never be practical until they can be made unbreakable."

Holy crap, guys, You must have gone through some very very draining experiences. For me, it would be just plain impossible to have any fun or enjoy life with any of those "Ladies":-) I would be bored to death, whether she's hi or lo. I would be so bored that no amount of mAmmory (and we all know how much I luv big boobs:-) could keep me around. (Well, maybe for a quicky from time to time:-) This is just crazy. nevertheless, i phucking believe that alot depends on the guy she is with. She can be total bitch with one dude, but the sweetest thing with another. and we know too well who that "another dude" is:-) Once the course of relationship is set, it will be almost impossible to change. She'll be conditioned. So set it right from the start:-)

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lol I'll start sending my ex's your direction for proper conditioning. The thing about dating- everybody's nice and sweet in the beginning...but if you date a beautiful woman long enough you can expect the issues to start coming out at some point. I guess they figure they can go jump right into the next guy's bed if you don't make them happy....so they figure they can get whatever they want. Still, that bad attitude catches up with them in their late 30's. When these women start to lose their looks, and they are still high-maintenance? Game over. oh, there was another point I was going to make. I see less difference between Russian and American women. But I do see a difference in women from Spain. They seem lower maintenance. Maybe the weather makes them sweeter? They also tend to by loyal for the long haul. I also heard Mexican women are super loyal for life. whatever. I've given up. "Hopeless in Atlanta"

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"Hearts will never be practical until they can be made unbreakable."

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Originally posted by James Bond: lol I'll start sending my ex's your direction for proper conditioning. The thing about dating- everybody's nice and sweet in the beginning...but if you date a beautiful woman long enough you can expect the issues to start coming out at some point. I guess they figure they can go jump right into the next guy's bed if you don't make them happy....so they figure they can get whatever they want. Still, that bad attitude catches up with them in their late 30's. When these women start to lose their looks, and they are still high-maintenance? Game over.

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Maybe the problem is that you are looking only for looks and disregarding character. Some women do have both.

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Originally posted by James Bond: oh, there was another point I was going to make. I see less difference between Russian and American women. But I do see a difference in women from Spain. They seem lower maintenance. Maybe the weather makes them sweeter? They also tend to by loyal for the long haul. I also heard Mexican women are super loyal for life. whatever. I've given up.

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This sounds like you are comparing different breeds of dogs.

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Originally posted by 412: <add oil to fire>One major downfall of the great number of Russian women: the Cinderella syndrome. Of course there are American examples as well, but it is very prevalent in the Russian specimens.<add oil to fire>

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Nah, outdated... nowadays a great amount of us are suffering from the 'Marilyn syndrome'.

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This is like deja vu all over again. Yogi Berra

Leah, you are always right. :-) It's fun to sometimes generalize. I've been shallow and I've paid for it. I keep trying to be less shallow....it's live and learn. "Hopeless in Atlanta"

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"Hearts will never be practical until they can be made unbreakable."

let add fire to the oil a little : Egor , FOr me.. What I like in Americans, which is missing in almost all russians.. Honesty, "outside the box", c'mon dude, common trend ???? in Americans ??? honesty ?????? "outside the box" ???????? jeezzz dude, what are you smokking ?? russians are no angels, but this is ridiculous....

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- Независимость - это когда в 20-й раз наступаешь на одни и те же грабли, а русские уже ни при чем....

If someone is interested here http://www.sharedpaths.com/tools/lovelanguages.html is a paraphrase of some book (I don't recommend the book, paraphrase is more than enough..) So the idea is that there are 5 'languages we speak/want to be spoken to': quote 1. hearing words that affirm 2. quality time spent together 3. receiving gifts and tokens of caring 4. having things done for you 5. physical touch and connection All of us need all five languages/forms of love, but there is one (or two), that is our "primary language" and crucial to our feeing love and cared for. If our partner does not speak to us in our "primary language" we feel as if something is missing, and we feel unloved, even if they are speaking to us in their own "primary language" /quote So, the same person can be a 'high-m' for one, a 'low-m' for someone else. Well, I like the way it is being explained. Moreover it can improve understanding people around you. PS Still I don't recommend reading the whole book, as it was written by a preacher (?), I mean, it gives a specific flavor.

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This is like deja vu all over again. Yogi Berra

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Originally posted by James Bond: Leah, you are always right.

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Well, you have certainly learned the art of flattery.... ;)