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  •  03-20-2008, 1:17 PM 186552

    Lessons in Love

    Lessons in Love: The Millionaire Hunters

    In the new Russia, a country obsessed with wealth and status, snagging a super-rich man is big business — and so are the outrageous classes that claim to give women a leg up.

    You have to admire a nation of women who wear stilettos in the snow and make it look easy. It's minus-10 degrees in Moscow, and the frozen sidewalks are teeming with glamorous female shoppers. Clad in fur and sparkly accessories, they navigate the ice in perilously high heels. The trick, it seems, is not to totter gingerly, but to stride ahead fast and never look down.

    After mastering this art, you'd think that negotiating love and marriage would be a cinch for modern Russian women. Not so, says Yulia Varra, 38, a Muscovite "love instructor" who runs classes in sex and seduction. In the new capitalist Russia, a country consumed with money and status, snagging a desirable man is a tough business. "Women want a husband who owns a private plane, a yacht, and an oil well. It's not impossible, but they need super-fantastic skills to succeed," says Varra, who has a riot of curly blonde hair and wears tight black jeans tucked into silver boots — high-heeled, of course.

    Despite the weather, it's positively steamy inside the Moscow basement where Varra holds various courses for women, including "How to Marry in Three Months" and "Oral Sex for Experts." Her seduction school is one of many new businesses designed to help women get ahead in Russia's post-communist marriage market. The economy has boomed, creating a super-rich ruling oligarchy and a huge class of cash-loaded entrepreneurs. And, in what is no doubt partly a backlash against the Soviet era — when women toiled in state industries alongside men — many young women today would prefer to marry a millionaire than work to become one themselves.

    Varra says she encourages students to look beyond a man's wallet to find other good qualities — to avoid being trapped in a "loveless golden cage" — but outside the new rich elite, decent prospects remain sparse. Russian women outnumber men by more than 10 million, and many men suffer from joblessness, chronic alcoholism, and early death (male life expectancy here is 59).

    Holding on to a good man long-term is an equally high-stakes matter. Divorce in Russia is easy; a powerful man can divorce his wife "in an hour," according to one local insider. Under the country's anachronistic divorce laws, husbands are generally not obliged to give their wives a penny, and they are often awarded custody of the children. "Relationships are like roulette for modern Russian women," says the insider. "They have a lot to win and everything to lose, so they can never afford to get complacent."

    Gou ni itte wa, gou ni shitagae.
  •  03-20-2008, 1:18 PM 186553 in reply to 186552

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    I know this isn't anything new... just interesting to read about it...
    Gou ni itte wa, gou ni shitagae.
  •  03-20-2008, 7:41 PM 186591 in reply to 186552

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    "glamorous female shoppers."

    где-то я видела реплику - "великие шопингауэры" :)


    This is like deja vu all over again. Yogi Berra
  •  03-20-2008, 10:02 PM 186593 in reply to 186591

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    Mouse:

    "glamorous female shoppers."

    где-то я видела реплику - "великие шопингауэры" :)

    Хорошая реплика, но не совсем правдивая. Во время шопинга пессимистами могут оставаться только мужчины. :)


  •  03-21-2008, 12:54 AM 186595 in reply to 186593

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    I'm not sure which is worse - that there aren't enough men for all those hot women....or that the women are so blinded by greed that they are doomed to never find a man that can make them happy.

    Women that marry just for money are training themselves to be a sex object.  That is a lesson you can't just leave behind.  Once Rich Guy #1 tires of you (1 to 5 years at most), then you have set yourself up for being abused by men for the rest of your life.  Women that sell themselves out for money early on, never learn to value what is really important about themselves (the part inside).  I have seen all this firsthand.

    Anyway, I learned something else interesting today.  The word "slave" comes from "slav".  As in Slavic.  Back in midevil times the Vikings did a lot of slave trading using Slavic women.  So this whole 'selling yourself for money' has been going on for quite some time.

     


    "Hearts will never be practical until they can be made unbreakable."

  •  03-21-2008, 10:36 AM 186601 in reply to 186593

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    _Sergey_:
    Хорошая реплика, но не совсем правдивая. Во время шопинга пессимистами могут оставаться только мужчины. :)

    Вспоминая вечное "опять нечего надеть", соглашусь не со всем. Что делать с до-и-после-шопингом?


    This is like deja vu all over again. Yogi Berra
  •  03-21-2008, 10:49 AM 186602 in reply to 186552

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    Bagel Roll:
    many young women today would prefer to marry a millionaire than work to become one themselves.
    I'll change the question :)
    Why "today", was it different yesterday?

    This is like deja vu all over again. Yogi Berra
  •  03-21-2008, 12:41 PM 186604 in reply to 186602

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    Mouse:
    Bagel Roll:
    many young women today would prefer to marry a millionaire than work to become one themselves.
    I'll change the question :)
    Why "today", was it different yesterday?

    I may be wrong, but I think there are more women today that fit the latter part of that statement.  Seem that women are doing more to guarantee their financial security in the event that their marriage to a millionaire fails. 


    Gou ni itte wa, gou ni shitagae.
  •  03-21-2008, 4:34 PM 186610 in reply to 186604

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    Bagel Roll:
    I may be wrong, but I think there are more women today that fit the latter part of that statement.

     As for latter part- I don't know any girl who has become a millionaire or will be one ( without any "help"). And I have no idea how to become one.

    But the article says it like they know, like they have all opportunities for that. Well I think, they don't.


    This is like deja vu all over again. Yogi Berra
  •  03-21-2008, 4:53 PM 186612 in reply to 186610

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    Mouse, are you serious?  Its too bad for all the white men who have no excuses in life Big Smile

    Read this:

    http://www.allaboutprosperity.com/articles/mwomen-millionaires.htm 

    Women are the Newest Millionaires:
    Secrets to Riches the Women's Way

    Women have only fully entered the world of business in the last fifty years. The first women were pioneers, entering uncharted territory and gradually breaking down barriers for everyone who followed in their footsteps. Women not only proved their worth, but they achieved extraordinary success and now hold some of the top positions in corporate America. These women, such as Carly Fiorina, Chairman and CEO of Hewlett-Packard, and Andrea Jung, Chairman and CEO of Avon, provide inspiration, mentorship and role models for women everywhere.

    Now, a new group of pioneer women is forming and gaining more momentum everyday. They are self-made millionaire women, and they are unstoppable! These millionairesses are the newest group to join the elite club of the very wealthy, and they are getting noticed.

    The number of women who are now building businesses has increased two-and-a-half times faster than all U.S. businesses, and female investors are the newest market for brokerage firms to pursue. Women are building wealth via entrepreneurship, real estate and stock market investing, publishing, product development, and other avenues of wealth creation. They are no longer waiting for "Prince Charming" to take care of them, and they are claiming their own feminine power to create the success and riches they deserve.

    At MillionaireWomen.com, we have formed a network of women who are committed to inspiring, mentoring and instructing other women about how to create freedom, wealth and outrageous success in their own lives. We asked a diverse group of self-made millionaire women to share their inside secrets on women's success and wealth. Here are the top three million-dollar secrets they want you to know.

    Wealth Knows No Boundaries

    Wealth is abundant and available for everyone, regardless of gender, race or socioeconomic status. The only limitations to wealth are the ones that you create with your beliefs and thoughts.

    The first millionaire woman in the United States was an African-American woman who was born just two years after the abolition of slavery. Madam C. J. Walker worked for pennies a day as a washerwoman to support her daughter and her new business that she quickly grew into a million-dollar enterprise. She amassed a fortune against all odds and became a savvy businesswoman, an inventor and an extremely generous philanthropist. She gave no power to limitations and became a legendary icon for women's success and financial independence.

    What limitations have you created based on your background or history? Let them go and come to realize that wealth knows no boundaries. Madam Walker and modern millionaire women are proof that wealth is not based on race, gender or socioeconomic history. If they can defy all odds to become an outrageous success, you can, too!

    Create Wealth Your Own Way

    Women in business once believed that to be financially successful, they would have to look and behave like men. Women who tried this approach quickly found that their unique talents as women were stifled. They realized that they weren't bringing their authentic selves to their work. Creativity and passion were lost to "trying to fit in" and the success they sought eluded them.

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    Oprah Winfrey won the hearts of millions by using her unique flair and style to create a deep connection with her viewers. Her success is based on her ability to focus on the emotional and spiritual side of things, and to create an open environment where nurturing, integrity and trust are fostered. She has used her feminine qualities to her advantage rather than trying to imitate other TV personalities.

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    Copyright © and Trademark ™ 2003 Millionaire Women, Inc. All Rights Reserved Worldwide.


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    "Я это понимаю на рациональном уровне, но не могу принять на эмоциональном" --Бизнесмен Борис Березовский
  •  03-21-2008, 5:43 PM 186613 in reply to 186612

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    Egor:

    Mouse, are you serious?  Its too bad for all the white men who have no excuses in life Big Smile

    Read this:

    http://www.allaboutprosperity.com/articles/mwomen-millionaires.htm 

    Women are the Newest Millionaires:
    Secrets to Riches the Women's Way

     

    1.we talked about Russia.

    2.но я сама по себе и правда абсолютно не понимаю, как все вокруг работает и что люди делают. 

    кстати, образования ради - а есть сайты, где какая-нибудь профессия была бы расписана поступенчато - образование, стоимость, время обучения, какая приблизительно первая работа, зарплата, какой рост карьеры может быть, сколько часов в неделю работать нужно, чтобы карьера росла, и т.п.

    Родители-форумчане, как вы собираетесь объяснять детям куда и кем _лучше_ идти работать?


    This is like deja vu all over again. Yogi Berra
  •  03-21-2008, 5:43 PM 186614 in reply to 186613

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    Egor, btw, are you going to become a СЕО someday? ;)
    This is like deja vu all over again. Yogi Berra
  •  03-21-2008, 6:54 PM 186616 in reply to 186613

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    Mouse:

    1.we talked about Russia.

    Yeah, i know, i was just responding to what you said about yourself and women you know :) 

    Mouse:
      

    Egor, btw, are you going to become a СЕО someday? ;)

    No, I've always felt sorry for every CEO I've worked for. I don;t know how these people sleep at night with the stress.  They are all walking heart attacks and strokes waiting to happen. For that reason, and others, I am not motivated enough.  I don't even want to be self employed. Just a little pissed i can't blame gender or race.  Big Smile

    Wait, i forgot about antisemitism.  Nevermind.  I am all good now. Big Smile

     


    ________________________________________
    "Я это понимаю на рациональном уровне, но не могу принять на эмоциональном" --Бизнесмен Борис Березовский
  •  03-21-2008, 10:18 PM 186617 in reply to 186616

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    долго думала что за blames... I guess it is about the word "opportunities"...well, I'm not sure I remember what did I mean :) But again- I don't like the word "prefer" in that statement.

    first of all, if we are talking about the whole phrase-  those who are taking those "classes" do not "prefer not to work  hard to become millionaires", they _can not _ become a millionaire, ИМО.


    if only about "latter part": "many girls prefer not to work hard to become millionaires" - some of them just have no opportunities; the same thing for boyzz.

    (Ну неужели и к этой фразе можно придраться, а? А?? Stick out tongue


    This is like deja vu all over again. Yogi Berra
  •  03-22-2008, 1:44 PM 186632 in reply to 186617

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    Egor,   thanks for the sympathy.  We (CEO's)  ARE all walking strokes or heart attacks.  Now that the recession has fully set in up here in Dalton, I have watched the revenue of my 3 operations fall to around 50% of normal.  Stress??   are you kidding me?   There is simply no way to survive on 50% of revenue without major, and do mean MAJOR, restructuring of not only your employees, but also an evaluation of every single expense you incur in your business. 

    Things I have done recently (last 12 months) to combat recession:

    Cut staff from 16 to 9    This 9 includes Natasha and myself.  You gotta put this in perspective,  we are operating two retail stores which are open 7 days a week plus a seperate offsite warehouse operation with 9 employees.   Try this any time you want.  It ain't fun.  I average 70-90 hours a week.  So does Natasha.

    Taken onto myself the responsibilities of most of the work the missing 7employees did.

    Quit Advertising

    Tried to renegotiate all three leases.   Can you guess the outcome?   NOT.   Landlords don't care.

    Purchased only bargain furniture.  Not entirely, but mostly.

    Cut prices to stimulate purchases.    (less profit for those businessmen and women among you)

    And the list goes on...

     

    Back on topic.   I don't respect any woman who would marry just for money.   She is using him, so don't be suprised to discover he was using her for sex when he meets the younger woman and trades the old one in for the new, leaving her out in the cold.


    Make each day count to improve yourself and those around you
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