Leah:

Possibly.  It is fortuntate that the contentious, condescending and constantly negative ones are slightly more rare.

You are, after all, one in a million.

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"Some say the Muses are nine: how careless! Look, there's Sappho too, from Lesbos, the tenth." Plato

Muidugi:

Thank you, Leah!

Durak duraka vidit iz daleka  

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"Some say the Muses are nine: how careless! Look, there's Sappho too, from Lesbos, the tenth." Plato

KGBMan:

husband spying or the other way around....  could be even fun ...

+100 points - kaching! 

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"Some say the Muses are nine: how careless! Look, there's Sappho too, from Lesbos, the tenth." Plato

Muidugi:

The reason I asked the husband about it was because I happen to know that his wife is very strongly against such things and I knew he was aware of this.

And, Egor, that exactly why I have "this feeling" - because I thought to myself: "What if it was my sister?"

What could she be doing that she would bring this up in casual conversation, that she does not like people reading her email?

Just trying to understand what you folks were talking about that she mentioned that she is "Strongly" against this. Is she plotting something against her?
As for him checking her emails, so what, big deal, I think it is none of anyone's business.
If she is smart enough, she can figure it out on her own. 

I have access to my wife's email account and I guess I could go in there, but I have better things to do.

She also has access to my account and my forum accounts as well. So if she wants to read them go for it.  To me she would be waisting some good shopping time.

Just me T.

 

Alpha1:

Muidugi:

The reason I asked the husband about it was because I happen to know that his wife is very strongly against such things and I knew he was aware of this.

And, Egor, that exactly why I have "this feeling" - because I thought to myself: "What if it was my sister?"

What could she be doing that she would bring this up in casual conversation, that she does not like people reading her email?

Just trying to understand what you folks were talking about that she mentioned that she is "Strongly" against this. Is she plotting something against her?
As for him checking her emails, so what, big deal, I think it is none of anyone's business.
If she is smart enough, she can figure it out on her own. 

I have access to my wife's email account and I guess I could go in there, but I have better things to do.

She also has access to my account and my forum accounts as well. So if she wants to read them go for it.  To me she would be waisting some good shopping time.

Just me T.

 

It is HER business if he is checking her email.  You say that wouldn't bother you, but Muidugi has stated that is does bother the wife.  It would bother me.  The husband's behavior is sneaky and controlling, and it shows a lack of respect for the wife.  Just because one has access doesn't mean it is okay to violate privacy.  Presumably, most husbands also have access to a wife's postal mail and her diary (if she keeps one), but that doesn't mean it is okay to read them.

Alpha1:

What could she be doing that she would bring this up in casual conversation, that she does not like people reading her email?

Just trying to understand what you folks were talking about that she mentioned that she is "Strongly" against this. Is she plotting something against her?

 

I am personally strongly against anybody invading my privacy whether it's reading my email or going through my underwear. There, now you know it. But really, did I have to tell you this? Aren't we supposed to respect one's right to privacy by default? Husband and wife supposed to trust each other. To me, that means you DO NOT check each other accounts even if you have access to it, not other way around. Am I wrong?

girls:-) all of you are so hot.

can you take your bras off before you start fighting?

 ....yeah... and wait till I get comfy in the chair and light up my cigar first:-) 

OK.. ready?????!!:-)

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Muidugi, you should spy on both of them, and see if this situation merits intervention :)

Actually Leah may have a point in certain types of relationships, the "might be fun" comment of KGBman, describes another type.  But it is not even your business to know which type you are dealing with.  You can;t even approach the problem much less act on it.  It may not even be a problem.  For all you know his wife might have misappropriated funds or seduced his brother online. .  Maybe they have exactly the kind of trust they each deserve. 

it is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

 

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Muidugi:

Alpha1:

What could she be doing that she would bring this up in casual conversation, that she does not like people reading her email?

Just trying to understand what you folks were talking about that she mentioned that she is "Strongly" against this. Is she plotting something against her?

 

I am personally strongly against anybody invading my privacy whether it's reading my email or going through my underwear. There, now you know it. But really, did I have to tell you this? Aren't we supposed to respect one's right to privacy by default? Husband and wife supposed to trust each other. To me, that means you DO NOT check each other accounts even if you have access to it, not other way around. Am I wrong?

Exactly.  Other than that platonic thing you mention in your signature, I like your view of marriage.

Egor:

certain types of relationships

I do realize that I sometimes see these things in an overly self-protective way.  :)

Leah:

Muidugi:

Alpha1:

What could she be doing that she would bring this up in casual conversation, that she does not like people reading her email?

Just trying to understand what you folks were talking about that she mentioned that she is "Strongly" against this. Is she plotting something against her?

 

I am personally strongly against anybody invading my privacy whether it's reading my email or going through my underwear. There, now you know it. But really, did I have to tell you this? Aren't we supposed to respect one's right to privacy by default? Husband and wife supposed to trust each other. To me, that means you DO NOT check each other accounts even if you have access to it, not other way around. Am I wrong?

Exactly.  Other than that platonic thing you mention in your signature, I like your view of marriage.

I like this view of marriage too.  I think that is irrelevant to this discussion.  My views will be just fine

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Egor:

Leah:

Muidugi:

Alpha1:

What could she be doing that she would bring this up in casual conversation, that she does not like people reading her email?

Just trying to understand what you folks were talking about that she mentioned that she is "Strongly" against this. Is she plotting something against her?

 

I am personally strongly against anybody invading my privacy whether it's reading my email or going through my underwear. There, now you know it. But really, did I have to tell you this? Aren't we supposed to respect one's right to privacy by default? Husband and wife supposed to trust each other. To me, that means you DO NOT check each other accounts even if you have access to it, not other way around. Am I wrong?

Exactly.  Other than that platonic thing you mention in your signature, I like your view of marriage.

I like this view of marriage too.  That is irrelevant to this discussion.

and since when are all of my comments perfectly relevant to the given discussion? 

Are you planning to moderate me?  ;)

Leah:

Are you planning to moderate me?  ;)

You and Sappho are sentenced to some kind of an oil or mud thing.

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Egor:

Leah:

Are you planning to moderate me?  ;)

You and Sappho are sentenced to some kind of an oil or mud thing.

Hmmm....  I have to say that any fantasies I've had about wrestling in the mud with another forum member really haven't included Sappho....

Leah:

It is HER business if he is checking her email.

Hers, not yours.
 

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"Some say the Muses are nine: how careless! Look, there's Sappho too, from Lesbos, the tenth." Plato