Gawwwwd! How many times the same things need be reiterated?! Men and women, who enter relationships with great expectations, become greatly disappointed. I can't even begin to list all of the complaints I hear from people who are or were in relationships. In my opinion, people are missing out on life experiences by overthinking EVERYTHING. Life is complex as it is, why complicate it even more by focusing on silly things like washing dishes, cooking meals, etc.? If you love a person, show it to them. If he/she loves you, he/she will do the same thing. Personally, I love cooking, experimenting with new spices and dishes, so it brings me a lot of pleasure to prepare a meal for a loved one or a group of friends. I receive tremendous pleasure out of making others enjoy life or bits and pieces of life, like a great meal.
Furthermore, I agree with Egor, technology is making our life easier, yet people in general seem to be less happier. My grandmother lived most of her life without a gas stove. She cooked everything on a Russian "pech'" (furnace? - have no idea how to translate this). Yes, she became tired. Yes, she didn't derive a lot of pleasure out of it every day. However, some of the happiest memories I have come from the time when all her children (or most of them, she had 9) came together in her small village home. Life was simple, yet difficult, and everyone seemed happy. Today, some of her children became quite wealthy, most of them live in their own big houses, drive expensive cars; they buy their food, instead of growing/raising it, there is no need for cooking and cleaning, as someone else may do this for them ... Nevertheless, I can't say that they are happier today than 20 or so years ago.
And lastly, we all make mistakes, we are human, and it is important to understand this and give ourselves and others a break, at least, once in a while. In my opinion, people should simply live, enjoy living, derive as much happiness as they can from every minute of their lives, instead of spending their time thinking over who, when and how is going to wash dishes, vacuum floors, cook meals, etc. Do the best you can, and if your partner/lover/boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancee/husband/wife do not appreciate you and things you do, then learn from the experience, and move on to bigger things in life. Otherwise, a person who does not move, whose waters stop running, slowly turns into a marshy place. Life is all about movement.
"Some say the Muses are nine: how careless! Look, there's Sappho too, from Lesbos, the tenth." Plato
